Why So? : Arranging A Good Wife For An Irresponsible Son In An Attempt To Change Him

A very interesting narrative by a Facebook user. This scenario is quite common than we think.

"If your son, brother, male relative, friend, colleague or neighbour is an irresponsible man, or is known to have wrong behaviours/habits, stop advising him to go and get married! Stop looking for a naive, innocent woman to brainwash to marry him. It is wrong.

This is a common occurance in our society, it has to stop.

We must make it stop.

Enough is enough!

Badly behaved women are not recommended to men in our society as wives. Even if a man decides to go for such a woman, his family and friends will oppose the union with everything they have.

But we often see people trying everything possible to match-make young ladies who are almost 'angels' with men who are hoodlums, delinquents, bullies, weaklings, irresponsible men and men who have no atom of home training.

It saddens me that many do not even notice the double standard staring us in the face. Very annoying!

Please stop trying to match a badly raised son or have as a brother with the quality and expensive lace another parent raised as a daughter. It will not work!

Wives/women do not have 'correction fluid' flowing through them. Marriage is not a rehabilitation centre for irresponsible and badly raised/behaved men.
Marriage does not automatically turn a bad person into a good person. Marriage is not miracle.

People don't change their bad behaviours just because they got married, in most cases they even get worse after marriage.
People only change if they make the decision to change for good, married or not.
Stop putting the burden of changing your badly raised or irresponsible sons/brothers to good and responsible men on the shoulders of innocent women who were unfortunate to be married to them.
Drop that stupid and unrealistic entitlement mentality!

Advice your brother, friend, colleague or neighbour with terrible behavious/habits to check into a rehab or to fix himself for good before thinking about getting married."

This is truly unacceptable. I believe that we should also exhibit characteristics that we want in our partners, it could enhance the possibility of a successful relationship.